July 17, 2019

This week, kiaʻi (protectors) at Maunakea have stood in protection of her. In case you have not yet seen what has been happening at Maunakea, please go ahead and google or find updates to learn more.

I posted this on my personal facebook page, and wanted to share my manaʻo here.
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Fumbling to find the right words, but feel the need to share.

It is an understatement to say that these passed few days have been difficult. So many emotions. I also find myself fighting the urge to not feel validated in my feelings because I feel some what disconnected and my naʻau and being are with the kiaʻi at Maunakea while watching from Oʻahu. But really, comparing that “so and so” has it worse so I shouldn’t grumble doesn’t apply. All are valid.

It is astonishing, if that is even the right word, to watch things unfold through social media or however possible from Oʻahu. In a way, I am thankful for the live feeds, but it also seems that it kinda re-plays the trauma in watching the replays or seeing the shared videos, pictures, posts over and over again. And yet, this trauma is still on-going.

Part of me feels that this is “go” time, and at this point everyone has decided where they stand on this issue. Even indifference is a decision. But, perhaps this is not an accurate conclusion. Instead, I would like to invite all to continue to educate yourself on this issue and decide for yourself. Continue to follow along and watch as how the State of Hawaiʻi treats Hawaiʻi’s native peoples, Native Hawaiians. Side note–not all in opposition of the TMT are Native Hawaiian, btw. As you are doing this, I ask you consider the following:

– who does the TMT benefit?
– is it ok to develop and build a project at any cost?
– where is the value of Hawaiʻi’s indigenous people?
– where is the value of Hawaiʻi’s ʻike kūpuna (indigenous knowledge)?
– why did the Governor sign an emergency declaration when nothing but peaceful protests have occurred?
– how does TMT impact the health and well-being of Native Hawaiians?
– when is it ok to arrest kūpuna (elders) who are simply exercising their first amendment right?
– when is enough enough?

I also invite conversation and dialogue with those interested.

One thing that I was reminded of today was the importance to aloha kekahi i kekahi, love one another. Especially in these passed few days, I have been immersed in simultaneously trying to figure out what I can do to kākoʻo, caring for my babies, and buried in my phone with trying to keep up with updates and what is happening. I need to do better at this as I know I have been less than patient with my kids as I am trying to stay afloat with processing all that is going on. Even in this lesson, I can’t help but see parallels between how the State treats kūpuna and Native Hawaiians, and how it treats our sacred mauna, Maunakea. That is not how I treat my kūpuna, our ʻāīna.

As painful, sad, and the heavy feelings are overwhelming, I am also uplifted seeing the strength of our kiaʻi, our lāhui. I have always been proud to be Hawaiian, but this pride continues to swell within me this week. Mahalo to the kiaʻi, especially those on the front lines, and aloha nui.

Kū Kiaʻi Mauna

I find strength from my kūpuna who signed the Kūʻē Petitions. I also find strength in wanting a better future for my keiki and future generations to come.

I’m not sure where to begin, but in case you are reading this and didn’t know, many of Hawaiʻi’s natural and cultural resources need our protection. In particular, there is a thirty-meter telescope (“TMT”) that just received a “notice to proceed” from the State of Hawaiʻi (“State”) to be built atop Maunakea, a sacred space for Hawaiʻi’s native people. With such strong opposition and turmoil against TMT being built on Maunakea, a simple solution is available since the Canary Islands has stated that it would accept TMT.

There is so much running through my mind while simultaneously trying to deal with the most recent events related to TMT. I think of my kūpuna who opposed the illegal annexation. I think of kūpuna who were scolded and banned from speaking ʻōlelo Hawaiʻi in schools. I think of my own ʻohana in just trying to make ends meet, while also wanting ʻāina to grow food to feed our growing babies. At the same time, I think of the many successes that we have fought hard for as a lāhui. I think of the laws that are in place to protect Hawaiʻi’s natural and cultural resources. But yet, in a way, a helpless feeling overcomes me in feeling like the rug is being pulled from under us.

A recent press conference that included the State’s Governor, an Attorney General, and other government officials, continues to baffle me. Many of those officials who spoke at this conference seemed to repeat some version of assurance regarding allowing protectors to continue to exercise their first amendment right, the right of speech. It was as if allowing the protectors to continue to exercise this first amendment right is enough. As if there is no violation of law because there is no infringement upon this first amendment right. Further, this baffles me because, my manaʻo is that these protectors are not merely on the mauna to hold signs and express their opposition to the TMT being built. They are there to be heard. They are demonstrating their opposition by using their bodies to stop construction of the TMT. Time and time again, at various hearings, people have shown up in masses to show their opposition to this project being built atop Maunakea. But yet, construction is set to begin next week.

Up until this point, I felt myself hold back with regards to Maunakea. I think I held back because I didn’t want to be seen as an extremist conspiracy theorist crazy person. I think I also held back because I remain hopeful that things would not get this far. However, due to recent events I feel encouraged to raise my voice and share my manaʻo.

With my educational background in public health and law, I especially focus in on what is happening with Maunakea as it impacts public health. My specific interests and work has been in Native Hawaiian health, but really what is good for Native Hawaiian health is generally good for the health of all.

For me it is quite simple: Maunakea is sacred, and continuing desecration atop Maunakea will result in perpetuating and increasing poor Native Hawaiian health outcomes. When people refer to TMT as genocide, it is because it is known that Maunakea is sacred to Native Hawaiians. It is known that relationship to ʻāina and cultural practices, to name a few, are Native Hawaiian determinants of health. These things are known, but yet the State and developers continue to bulldoze through to move forward with building TMT.

Cumulatively, I am left with the following as a result of events and actions that have taken place related to TMT:

  • Hawaiians do not matter.
  • The supposed benefits of building TMT outweighs all costs, not only monetary costs but also depletion of resources and people.
  • Laws and process do not need to be followed by the State or developers.
  • The State’s improper management of Maunakea and broken promises of just one telescope does not matter with regards to pushing TMT forward.
  • Develop Hawaiʻi and deplete its resources.

As much as we are trying to heal and continue to make progress as a lāhui since the illegal overthrow of the Hawaiian kingdom, TMT seems to be a current day event that will re-traumatize our people. The historical trauma continues. Can you imagine the impact this will have with TMT taking 10 years to be built? Can you imagine the impact this will have for our keiki?

The way things are currently headed is not the Hawaiʻi that I want for my keiki or future generations. I do not want my keiki to be pushed out of Hawaiʻi because of the lack of water. I envision a Hawaiʻi that values its natural and cultural resources, including its people. I envision a Hawaiʻi that is a leader for the world on sustainable living and adapting to a changing world, especially in light of climate change. I envision a Hawaiʻi WITHOUT TMT on Maunakea.

What future Hawaiʻi do you want for our keiki and future generations to come?

Got Goals?

Confession: it’s July and I have yet to write down my goals for the year.

I remember January of this year coming and going. Once February came, I remember thinking that I could still get back on track with writing down my goals and ringing in the Chinese New Year. Now it’s July and I still haven’t written down my goals.

Part of me feels frustrated for not having the time that I’d like to do things like writing down my goals. At the same time, part of me feels frustrated for letting myself think that that “perfect” time will come.

But perhaps this is exactly what I am (re-)learning:

  1. There is no such thing as the “perfect” time to do something. At the same time, don’t forget to be kind to yourself.
  2. The metrics that we self evaluate ourselves, which are often related to our goals, need to be updated.
  3. This is my new “normal,” and it is indeed trying to hit a moving target.

I think part of why I haven’t written down my goals yet is because I don’t really know what realistic goals look like for me in this season of life. As much as I try to come to accept these facts, it doesn’t make things simple.

What I do know is that I am doing my best.

Goal check! How have you been doing on achieving your goals this year? Are you stuck like me? Are you rocking it?

ʻAuhea ʻoe…

“E kolo ana no ke ēwe i ke ēwe

“The rootlets will creep toward the rootlets.”

“Of the same origin, kinfolk will seek and love each other.”

(Mary Kawena Pukuʻi, p. 39)

Photo Credit: Naleisha (Pelekai-Wai) Lucrisia

Diving deeper, and continuing to re-align, with part of what motivated me to start this blog, something else that I have been wanting to do is to get together with other wāhine, specifically Hawaiian mothers. I envision this group to be open to not only mothers, not only Hawaiian women, but that would be the majority of the group.

My oldest daughter is now six years old, and I still find myself wanting this type of group. More recently, I had an “AHA” moment where I think I found a common thread that could weave this all together.

I am interested in creating a space for Hawaiian moms to get together to discuss their multi-faceted lives, the multiple hats that they juggle, and everything else in between based on a cultural foundation. What cultural practices do you practice? How are we teaching our keiki our cultural practices? How has your cultural practice informed decisions in your career, or your daily life?

No laila, ʻauhea ʻoe e nā mākuahine?

(Therefore, where are these mothers?)

I hope that this space will foster important discussions that touches on many different issues of today, while also (re-)connecting us to our traditions, cultural practices, towards being our best as individuals and as a lāhui.

If you are interested, please send me your email address by commenting on this post. If you would like me to keep your identity private, let me know and I won’t publish your comment so that only I will see it.

A Self-Portrait Series

Certain themes have been popping up for me based on different things that have been occupying my brain space, my mental capacity, or just my mind. Stuff that’s going on up in my head. Yeah, that stuff. And let me tell you, being home with my babies is exactly where I want to be, but I also crave adult conversations. We’ll save my craving for adult conversations for another post, but for now, I’ll just say having a complete thought feels like a luxury these days.

One theme that has been coming up for me is around this idea of a self-portrait series. As you might guess, many of my self-portraits revolve around my role as a mother. I knew I always wanted to have a big family, but I don’t think I ever knew how much I would enjoy being māmā. These self-portraits that come to mind are images, or sometimes symbolic images that are what my mind thinks of when “triggered” with certain cues, or even words or mind maps.

I know I am not the first to think about this type of self-portrait series, especially with the many doodle-like pages on social media nowadays. However, this is the background to what I plan on sharing with different self-portraits of how I would describe myself.

What comes to mind when you think of your self-portrait? How would you describe your self-portrait? What images or words come to mind?

And then there were 4


We are close to one year of being an ʻohana of six, so I think that says how it has been going within itself. haha I don’t know if it is because of this transition to four keiki, or if it is because our youngest two are only 13 months apart, or if it is because I am breastfeeding our younger two, or maybe we just haven’t gotten the hang of it yet, but it hasn’t been easy.

Just as before, when pēpē hou is born, it as if the older pē is grown up all-of-a-sudden. We are celebrating so many milestones all at once: our oldest is in papa mālaaʻo, our second is holding it down at pūnana leo without the guidance of her older sister who was there with her last year, and our son seems to be a big boy now that pēpē hou is here.

With so much going on, I am thankful to be home to care for my babies. Shortly after pēpē #4 was born, I remember telling my husband (jokingly), “how can I work? With four kids, how can I work? Based on their different school schedules, the amount that they get sick, how can I work?” I guess the jokes on us, but I’ll save that for another post. And staying home to care for our babies is definitely where I want to be, but it is definitely not easy or a “luxury.”

And this post would not be complete without dedicating a portion to the topic of breastfeeding. This is yet another new journey for us with breastfeeding two babies at one time–well, not simultaneously, but it is more like this: one breastfeeds while the other one cries, then they switch. Sometimes, when one breastfeeds, the other will nap or play nicely.

If I could describe what it is like having four kids, I think the expression of “herding cats” is pretty accurate. More and more I find myself doing things, then thinking to myself, “and this is life with four kids!” haha

Life with four kids is a bit extra…extra love, extra tired, extra messy house, extra laundry. Some days are harder than others, but filled with so much love.

A Note to Self

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic, she shares about how when she writes, she writes for herself. She doesn’t write for the potential reader that will buy her book. She doesn’t write for me or you, or her haters. Isn’t that interesting? Isn’t that so powerful to think of writing to yourself? What do you need to hear? What do you need to write?

In between reading Big Magic and caring for my babies ;), I like to listen to Liz Gilbert’s podcast, Magic Lessons. First off, isn’t that the coolest podcast name ever???!!! And fittingly so, she is truly magic. Just hearing her voice is therapeutic, if you ask me. But more to the point, one of her episodes on her podcast discussed this idea of writing for yourself. Be the model you seek. Be the voice of reason you yearn to hear.

Another piece to this that comes to mind based on my daily routine these days is CBS This Morning’s segment entitled, “Note to Self,” where they have various celebrities and guests on their morning news show to write a letter to their younger self and read it outloud to themselves. Particularly powerful is the ever so lovely, Ms. Michelle Obama, writing, “…share your story with them. The struggles and the triumphs, and everything else. Show them that there’s more beauty inside than they can see right now. That’s how you’ll answer that question that’s following you around. The one that sometimes keeps you up at night.” You should definitely check out the full video of her reading her Note to Self!

So what would my note to self be? What would you write to your younger self? I’ll definitely give this a “go” here, but I also know that this will be a continual process in digging down deep and staying true and focused in writing for myself.

So here it goes:

Photo by Pekuna Hong

A Note to Self

I hear you.

Give yourself more credit. This shit is hard! You don’t have to do it all. Don’t worry. It will all work out! Even on days when you question how you can hold on for another hour, you will. Then you will do it again, and again, and it will become easier in ways. But its never easy. It is hard, but worth it.

Keep doing what you’re doing. Lean the fuck out. “Lean with it, rock with it.” No, really! There’s no correct way to be a working-stay-at-home-mom-badass that you are. Self-define and trailblaze on!

Your story is definitely worth sharing and mahalo for sharing yours.

I hear you.

I see you.

Keep holding on. Keep pushing. Keep striving. It will all be worth it.

You are not alone. Your ʻohana, kūpuna, ʻaumākua are with you.


Evolving

As I prepare and share every blog post, I think back to the reason why I started this blog. While my initial blog post outlining my reasons for starting this blog are still valid, I feel myself evolving, wanting to turn up the volume, and continue to refine my purpose.

Over time, I realized that my former self would fall into the in-between space of not really making a decision of yes or no, red or blue, in hopes of not ruffling any feathers. While I still see the value and hope to bring people together, I also have come to learn the importance of definitively being clear about where I stand. Make that choice. Make a decision. Indecision can further perpetuate injustices. And if I make a decision, but later come to learn new information that sways me another way, that’s ok too.

Simultaneously, I have been reading some of the greats: Pualani Kanahele, Brene Brown, Rachel Hollis, Mary Kawena Pukuʻi, to name a few. While there have been many lessons and guidance brought forth in the process of reflecting on these readings, one main point that has hit home in a different way recently is the importance of writing for myself.

So going back to one of the main reasons why I started this blog, I remember becoming a new mom and looking, reaching, wanting that connection with other Hawaiian moms. I wanted to find the blueprint, the answers, or at least some clues as to how to (or even how not to) be a Hawaiian mom. As you can guess, my search came up empty-handed and thus, this blog was born. I certainly don’t think that I have all of the answers, but I do hope that this blog creates space for us to have these discussions. I also know that our stories are worth sharing.

So in short, here is an updated manifesto of sorts of what I aim to achieve with this blog:

A space where Hawaiian moms can discuss all things specific to being a Hawaiian mom in today’s context while upholding, practicing, and living our cultural traditions. A space where we can speak up, speak our minds, and listen. A space for co-learning and sharing.

A Creative Approach: What can a lawyer do for you?

Related to my previous post on my consulting business, I wanted to do a question and answer-type format post that would hopefully broaden the discussion in thinking more creatively and hopefully make more space for discussion and collaboration for possible solutions that push the envelope with thinking outside of the box.

And seriously, I want to hear from YOU! Comment, email, direct message me. What is your manaʻo? Let me know what you think! How can I serve you and/or your community?

These questions are common questions that I have received when I share about my budding consulting business and bridge that I hope to build to connect various pieces to move towards solutions.

Question: so what kind of consulting do you want to do?

Answer: Ultimately, I want to do consulting in the area of work that improves Native Hawaiian health. Looking at the various social determinants of health, the type of work that I’d like to do can be quite broad. Using my unique background in public health and law, I want to use these skills to improve Native Hawaiian health.

Question: what can a lawyer help a kalo farmer with?

Answer: From water rights to ensuring that they are paying their taxes correctly, there is quite a bit that a lawyer can do to support our kalo farmers and cultural practitioners. Thus far, it is has also been identified that there is an interest in writing a will to ensure that the farmer’s (or cultural practitioners alike) legacy is secured.

Question: preventative law? What is that?

Answer: my background in public health lends itself to be a compatible partner with law. Just as within a health context there is discussion of preventative health, I aim to practice preventative law. I do not see myself as a the type of attorney that is in court fighting cases. Instead, my goal is support resolution of potential issues before they reach the last resort of being battled out in the courtroom.

Question: so what about medical malpractice claims? Are you wanting to help people who got hurt working on the job?

Answer: No, I don’t anticipate doing much work in this area. Health is different than medicine. My goal is to improve Native Hawaiian health by lifting up and supporting many people and organizations already doing this type of work.

Question: have you done consulting work before?

Answer: Yes 🙂

Questions: so you’re interested in policy?

Answer: Yes, but I also recognize the importance of ensuring that policies are informed from the ground up. Communities have the answers and solutions. I see my role as ensuring that their voices are heard and represented at all levels, from an individual to a community to the policy/governmental level.

How can I serve you and your community?

This logo was created with the help from my friend and former colleague, Randy Compton.

For over a year now, I have been working on this special project that has blossomed into an exciting opportunity for me to apply my strengths to serve my community.  I feel so fortunate and thankful to have had the experiences and opportunities that have brought me this far, and for the opportunity to dream.  How magical it is for me to culminate my prior work and educational experiences to be able to give back to those that have invested in me.

With the support of my ʻohana, prior employers, and colleagues,  I am honored to share that I have been in the process of building a consulting business.  My ultimate goal is to improve Native Hawaiian health through ʻāina justice and advocacy.  My vision is built upon my prior educational and work experiences.  Using my unique educational background in public health and law, I plan to lift up voices of cultural practitioners so that policies support, encourage, and add power to those actually doing the work on the ground.  It is important to me to not only serve individuals, but also at the community and policy levels as I know that change is needed at all levels.  Simultaneously, it is important that we not lose sight of the impacts of policies to a farmer or lomilomi practitioner.

I certainly don’t have all of the answers, but I know that I it has been over 30 years since the enactment of the Native Hawaiian Health Care Improvement Act.  But yet Native Hawaiians continue to experience health disparities.  I hope to provide a unique perspective at the intersection of public health and law.

What this kind of work looks like varies based on the different client I may be working with.  A client may be an individual, a farmer, a cultural practitioner, or another consultant who I work with on a project.  Similarly, the needs of this type of individual client varies.  As an example, as this has already been identified and echoed, individuals are wanting assistance with setting up their business.  This is something that I could help with.

At the community level, I envision working with existing organizations that are already doing important work that touches Native Hawaiian social determinants of health–education, culture, health, just to name a few.  Commonly, it has been identified that there is no shortage of work that needs to be done.  However, there is often a shortage on personnel or capacity to complete a project or projects that an organization would like to do.  This is something that I could help with.

And lastly at the policy or governmental level, I see my role as being able to ensure that policymakers are well-informed and have a clear understanding of who their policies impact.  This is something that I can help with based on my experience with individual and community-level clients.

I am continuing to learn new things everyday as things continue to evolve.  This is critical to my success to be sure to provide and best serve my community.  With that said, how can I serve you or your community?

Have something that you need help with?  Have a project that you need done, but don’t have the personnel in-house?  Message me here and let’s get to work!