Me and my ʻohana just got back from a wonderful ʻohana trip to the Big Island for Merrie Monarch. As we’re adjusting back to reality, I’m hoping to hold on to these feelings to try to be more balanced. Is this what “adulting” is–trying to balance the stresses of life while living in the moment ?
Maunakea in the distance.
Since having kids, I think I’ve been very fortunate to strike a balance with being able to be at home with my babies as long as possible, while also trying to pursue my career goals. For me, this has manifested itself with various jobs and experiences. Working part-time seems to be the best for me and my ʻohana where I feel like I’m able to juggle all of my kuleana…at least most of the time.
At the same time, it hasn’t been easy. I am thankful and appreciative for the flexibility and understanding of my employers, but although I usually work officially “only part-time,” I still end up working at least 30 hours a week…and probably think about work more than I should. Financially, things are also tight with a growing family being supported (basically) by one income.
ʻŌhiʻa lehua growing so effortlessly aside the walking path to Akaka Falls (pictured in the background).
Going to the Big Island as an ʻohana really helped to put things into perspective. It was a nice break from our usual hustle and bustle. And instead of my usual stress about ensuring we’ll have enough money for this, that and the other, we just enjoyed the moment. I was also reminded that our current situation–where our apartment feels like the walls are closing in, our van is on it’s last leg, etc.–is temporary. Our kids are flourishing despite not having the big house with the yard that I always envisioned…and it’s ok. That will come.
Now that we’re back home and adjusting back to “reality,” I feel re-energized and I’m reminded why we are working so hard. Part of me is back to thinking of how many hula girl outfits (more on this later, but if you haven’t already, follow @puipuihawaii on instagram and facebook) I need to sell to do this, or how many months it will take for that, but I am reminded that it will all be worth it.
The Big Island is such a magical place, and being there during Merrie Monarch is even more special. I am thankful for the memories that me and my ʻohana created, and also for the boost of mojo to get back to our grind.